“Wait, So Is This a romantic date?”: A unique Queer Podcast about Dating | Autostraddle

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“Wait, Is This A Romantic Date”
the podcast about queer dating you never knew you usually needed, managed by myself, Christina, and Drew Gregory!

This podcast was given birth to out-of Drew and I’s common passion for sound memos and deep conversations about dating. We have been giving one another sound memos just for over annually now, heading deeply about things Drew really likes about matchmaking (folks! fun! flirting!) in addition to circumstances I dislike about online dating (folks! Fun! Flirting!). We were having a lot of fun, thoughtful, and insightful talks and honestly, it appeared rude to deprive the higher public of these!

Think of united states as the friendly area co-hosts, guiding you through awesome certain queer matchmaking conundrums because truthfully, directly online dating podcasts could never. Conundrums like: How do you flirt via IG tales? How can you take very long, drawn-out flirting to the next level? How much does it indicate to believe folks are into you? We will speak to several of Autostraddle’s greatest people, play some awesome specific video games, document on our pop society crushes of-the-moment and of course, try to answer the endless concern your occasions:

Wait…is this a night out together???

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Drew:

Hi, I Am Drew.

Christina:

And That I’m Christina. And this refers to

Hold off, Is It a Date?

An Autostraddle podcast that’s dedicated to practical question, “Wait, is this a date?”

Drew:

I am so thrilled discover.

Theme track plays

Christina:

Yeah. I do believe we have been on a trip discover what exactly are dates and what exactly are not times, as friends, and as a people, In my opinion.

Drew:

Yeah. As a people. Definition, the queers, the lesbians.

Christina:

Should we tell those queers and lesbians what our whole indealment is, like that which we’re as much as in this moment?

Drew:

Like exactly who we’re?

Christina:

Yeah.

Drew:

Yeah. I can go first. I am Drew Gregory. I’m a filmmaker and an author for autostraddle.com, website. I do some movie and television criticism, and gender and matchmaking authorship, and private essays, and things that blend all of those situations. I am trans I am also a lesbian, and I also feel like I should include a third thing because everything is in threes. What else? What else?

Christina:

Situations do continue threes. You may have great locks.

Drew:

Oh, thank you so much.

Christina:

You’ve got incredible hair, i do believe that is really important.

Drew:

Those tend to be my identities. Trans. Lesbian. Fantastic hair.

Christina:

Those are your identities.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

I’ve constantly asserted that you might be a woman of tresses experience. I have always mentioned that about yourself.

Drew:

Yeah. It is vital.

Christina:

Yeah. Im Christina Tucker. I will be additionally an author at Autostraddle, if you’re able to believe it, which produces about… oh, let us only state whatever pops into the mind. That is really the feeling. Also a lesbian. I Am Black. I’m not sure exactly who else I am.

Drew:

You additionally have great tresses.

Christina:

Oh yeah, no, i am talking about, I think this will be perhaps a podcast of locks knowledge. Perhaps that need to be the tagline, “a podcast of tresses knowledge.” I guess people are probably wondering how we have got to this podcast specifically.

Drew:

Yes. And like every best part in daily life — and by that after all, very, very few — it started as a highdea, as something which I delivered you in a voice memo, large. And heading back beyond that, we began sending vocals memos to one another in the beginning of the pandemic.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Okay. I am only attending tell you just like the emotions that We have, and after that you can go following that and reply to myself, maybe not answer me, whatever. I’m like, this is certainly myself becoming drive and obvious. Okay. Im some body who… i enjoy speaing frankly about internet dating. Its among my main topics of discussion. You will find now mentioned my part.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Thanks a lot for saying your piece. Also, six moments and 54 mere seconds. Seriously, somewhat impressive for you to get that call at that amount of time. We never truly think about dating. I believe, possibly, an opposite feeling of you and your like to think of dating and talk about dating and, like, be matchmaking. I do believe those tend to be my personal views. Well, I’m delivering a Drew-level sound memo, a Drew-length sound memo today. I’m going to send this.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Yeah. I understand you do not think about online dating, not approximately myself, perhaps significantly less than other people I know?

Christina, in a voice memo:

I do believe about internet dating below nearly anybody I additionally understand. I’m not sure. We seriously don’t know easily’ve fulfilled anyone who willn’t think of internet dating in so far as I carry out or in so far as I cannot, I guess.

Drew:

We failed to really know each other. We had been peers at Autostraddle, but for those of you that simply don’t know, Autostraddle is actually a virtual office space. It is more of a Slack situation than a, we all show up to like lesbian headquarters and briefcases. That is not really the vibe. We don’t truly know each other. Then, the start of pandemic, there clearly was some DM sliding many relationship building several vocals memoing. And in addition we would constantly joke it was like we had a podcast because we might send these very long vocals memos. Then when I was actually stoned, I happened to be want, “We really should.” And right here we’re.

Christina:

Yeah. I am aware that which you suggest by large tips not at all times being best some ideas, but i actually do have a rather obvious recollection of hearing you say that being like, “Yeah, naturally we should have a podcast. The audience is doing each some other. Have you thought to ask others involved with it?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. Normally my large tips are such things as, “Oh my God, there must be a TV tv series labeled as

Get A Hold Of Your Celebrity Twin,

where you just take a hollywood immediately after which they fulfill somebody who — like a random one who features their exact same delivery chart. That also, is one of my large tips that i believe could be great. Its like…

Christina:

Yeah, first of all, TM, Drew Gregory, copyright laws.

Drew:

That’s a free one. I don’t care and attention.

Christina:

No, it isn’t. Drew, I’m getting you cash, i will become your money manager for the. Definitely not.

Drew:

I recently need to see this stuff in the field. Essentially, it is a dating podcast, a queer relationship podcast. Plus one reason exactly why really that topic, in the place of any number of other activities Christina and that I mention, is basically because Everyone loves online dating and Christina cannot love online dating and that’s a great little.

Christina:

Less of an admirer.

Drew:

And dispute is actually… That’s where crisis occurs. I believe Socrates mentioned that.

Christina:

Positively.

Drew:

And that’s why that is the topic. We’re going to protect all kinds of things.

Christina:

Yeah. We’re going to talk about all of the finest queer dating conundrums, internet dating via Instagram.

Drew, in audio clip from potential event:

Correct myself basically’m wrong, but i believe Instagram is the best queer online dating software.

Shelli, in sound video from potential event:

A thousand per cent. Simple fact is that most useful.

Christina, in sound video from future event:

I’ve heard this from other queers.

Shelli, in sound video from future event:

Positively. It gives you actually all you need, unless of course somebody’s personal. But even although you’re exclusive, infant, I’ll find out exactly about you, some type of method.

Drew, in sound clip from potential event:

We’re going to explore a gender we have now had.

Dani, in audio clip from future occurrence:

And At long last questioned like, “No, do you run over here getting sex? Are we browsing have intercourse?” And they were like, “Yeah, that is what i needed.” And it was actually like, the cat and dog had been when you look at the space there had been cat and dog locks almost everywhere. And I also ended up being like, absolutely having an allergic effect while we were making love. The climax was, like, cook’s kiss. It absolutely was the right knowledge.

Drew, in sound video from potential occurrence:

Wow.

Christina, in audio clip from future occurrence:

I ask yourself if it’s something regarding hives that basically added. Like some ‘jenesequa’ compared to that orgasm experience. It actually was like, “Ooh, I’m somewhat itchy also.” We ponder just how much that elements. We are talking about simple tips to break-up with people.

Ro, in sound clip from future episode:

It is like a really directly lifestyle thing, too.

Christina, in audio video from future occurrence:

Yeah.

Ro, in sound clip from potential occurrence:

About in my experience, personally i think like… My personal direct pals are the ones that very likely to say, “Well, fuck that person. That person sucks,” easily finish a relationship with somebody. Whereas, queer people in my entire life are the ones who will be almost certainly going to preserve friendships with exes or perhaps see our very own exes in a holistic way.

Christina, in sound video from future episode:

Whatever you could contemplate in a matchmaking podcast, and I’m perhaps not likely to lie to you personally people, additionally a lot more. Above you can previously contemplate.

Drew, in sound video from future episode:

When you are sexting via book, could it be like what you want all of them… Are you doing role-plays of a situation, like “you’re pressing me personally today” or “I wish you were holding,” just what tense tend to be we in?

Kayla, in audio clip from future event:

Yeah, I happened to be attending ask similar concern, really, for the reason that it’s something which’s usually fascinating to me, specifically even though we are all people, additionally.

Christina, in audio video from future event:

I was attending state, a group of article authors like, “exactly what tight are we functioning?”

Kayla, in sound clip from future episode:

Point of view.

Christina, in audio clip from future event:

It really is a close 3rd, what is going on here?

Kayla, in sound clip from future event:

Like, strictly next?

Drew:

Listed here is finished . about queer men and women. Let me make it clear.

Christina:

Okay. Pull up a chair. Introducing your TED Chat. Let’s go-off.

Drew:

We now have a lot of encounters and generally are so much more fascinating. Merely as I consider the manner in which right individuals talk about internet dating, it is therefore boring. And I also think so usually, queer dating conversations tend to be extensions associated with popular internet dating discussion, but adding things like “coming-out” and “first-time you’re with a blah, blah, blah.” It really is like — absolutely a lot more nuance in books… It is very interesting. Exactly what a world that it is, queer intercourse and queer matchmaking.

Christina:

We have used like the extremely classic method of dull framework of heterosexual dating and really brought it into a fresh globe, filled up with long talks and processing our emotions. It really is amazing work.

Drew:

Yeah. I am actually thrilled and I wish you all are thrilled, because the first occurrence arrives weekly from these days and then, there will be brand new episodes every Wednesday.

Christina:

This has been 1 week until you’ll hear all of our podcast. Nailed it. Broken it. Yeah. Every Wednesday, you will not merely get

To L and Back

on Mondays, you’ll receive

Hold Off, So Is This A Night Out Together?

on Wednesdays.

Drew:

And that I co-host both, when you don’t like me personally, I guess you’re not enjoying Autostraddle podcasts. Just in case you do like me, you’re welcome.

Christina:

Also, unless you like Drew, become adults, is really what i need to say.

Drew:

I am not for everyone, I am ok thereupon. I believe it should be advisable that you never be for all.

Christina:

Positive. I believe that is totally fair. And maybe a subject we could talk about on one your potential symptoms. What takes place when you are perhaps not for everybody? We cherished that We moved like, “Ooh, let us get this all-inclusive.” What will happen as soon as you, we, as individuals. You mentioned, why don’t we carry out a whole episode in regards to, “Can you imagine I am not for all of us?”

Drew:

Really, it really is Leo period and I’m a Leo soaring and I decided which makes it about myself personally. 00:09:54].

Christina:

As am I. thanks quite definitely.

Drew:

We are twin Leo risings with this podcast, that is certainly element of the reason why it will be so great. It is possible to hear us wherever you pay attention to your own podcast. It will be a fairly common podcast scenario. Nothing fancy, no riddles must be fixed to find the occurrence, it will likely be there for your family.

Christina:

Simply not the employer people. There’s lots of solutions, would what you should.

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Okay. Well, available all of us on Twitter and Instagram at @waitisthisadate. And email all of us at waitisthisadate@gmail.com. And you may find me on Twitter and Instagram and TikTok at @draw_gregory, my title in the present tight.

Christina:

I’ve looked at the social media addresses many times and I never, until this minute, recognized that it is “draw.” Wow.

Drew:

Yeah. Really that is the thing, Drew was actually used and I don’t know how… Oh, I happened to be matchmaking someone that really… Actually this individual which I dated, i did not get many off that commitment, except I mentioned this idea and she thought it was therefore funny, like also amusing, truthfully, like a portion of the problem, i believe maybe. And that I ended up being encouraged to do it, then it’s just trapped.

Christina:

Wow.

Drew:

But yeah. Often folks think I’m an aesthetic singer while know what, i enjoy be thought of that way, but i cannot, I don’t obviously have design skills.

Christina:

I am going to state there’s nothing more about brand name for Drew than becoming similar, “Oh, that is the Twitter handle.” And also you becoming want, “in fact, it’s a funny story about dating.”

Drew:

Yes, exactly.

Christina:

Great.

Drew:

What are your personal manages, and are they connected with the intimate life?

Christina:

Just, no. Available myself at @c_gracet on twitter.com, the web site. Of course, if you intend to find me on Instagram, you could do therefore, at @christina_gracet. And it’s truly daring of me to understand my own personal Instagram handle.

Drew:

Amazing work.

Christina:

Thank you much.

Drew:

It is usually a pleasure to speak with you and i am therefore excited to jump into each one of these interesting topics. And our very own listeners to access know all of us somewhat much better and acquire to… i believe we can all, i do believe we’re all planning learn with this quest.

Christina:

I’m hoping very. I enrolled in discovering.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

Like a college span of podcasts. That caused it to be appear to be an outright bummer. Very sorry.

Drew:

I’m not sure. I’d some excellent school courses.

Christina:

Certainly, Used To Do too, but I Do Not should make anyone—

Drew:

Can you imagine how amazing it would be in the event that you showed up your school class and either folks had been your own teacher, or we coached a class with each other, that’d be the hottest thing actually ever. Men And Women would be like…

Christina:

Preferred pass in town. Enrollment is actually off the information.

Drew:

Oh, we must have an event that is dedicated to hot teachers. That’s not related.

Christina:

That’s not maybe not related. We’ll point out that.

Drew:

Sure, sure. I feel like there could be — you must make it some wider, but who knows? Who knows what’s going to be in the long term, and that is truly exciting. And you know who can understand? You, listener, whenever you listen in every Wednesday.

Christina:

You listen in and also you crucially hit that outdated subscribe key and hang out with our team every Wednesday and ask yourself, “What is a date?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. That delivers myself to… I’m not sure. I happened to be just questioning… was actually this a date?

Christina:

Drew, no. This is a podcast trailer.

Drew:

Oh, cool. Okay. Great. Okay. I believe I’m obtaining hang from it and also you understand what’s fantastic, is that because I asked, now I know, and then directly in interaction is actually exactly what it’s exactly about.

Christina:

Expected and answered. The CT motto.

Drew:

The other that a lot of folks in our very own area could find out. And we’re going to, ideally, this is really a service. This really is less of a podcast and much more of a political act.

Christina:

Wow. I happened to ben’t conscious of that, but i am happy to know that we are having both a podcast and a political work. Two of my favorite things. Two of the best factors to start off with P, podcasts and political functions.

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Christina, in a voice memo:

I do believe my instinct is when I like one and that I want them in my existence, I know the most effective way personally to keep them during my life is to ensure they are a buddy.

Drew, in a voice memo:

I am merely very glad that individuals’ve come to be these types of good friends. Whenever from quarantine, that is what happened, I made this unique new buddy, which I favor dearly and that I’m only pleased to speak with you usually, like exactly what a gift.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Dammit. I’d an idea plus it went out. It actually was honestly most likely really brilliant.